Wednesday, August 31, 2011

We Have a Winner!

SOMEBODY TRIP THAT RABBIT!
Congrats to Randy Chitty for his winning caption for the week 4 photo caption contest (see right).

Randy's name will be entered into a drawing with the other weekly winners to win a free autographed copy of Too Blessed to be Stressed and a week's supply of his favorite Starbucks chill-out beverage.

We're going to take a break from the contest for a few weeks and resume in late September, with more of Marian Crawford's terrific nature photos and a chance to win some cool prizes.

In the meantime, I want to thank our photo caption judges for pitching in their time and talents: Jim, Chuck, Andie, & Cricket. You do a wonderful job sorting through the entries and choosing a winner that most embodies the spirit of Too Blessed to be Stressed.

And I must share my unbelievable news: Too Blessed to be Stressed just hit #3 on the Amazon Bestsellers List in the women/spirituality category! Yay God! 

An utterly dedicated fan
Be sure to check out the newest 2-Minute Stress Busters at www.DeboraCoty.com (just click on Stress Busters). We're adding new ones almost every week!

Monday, August 22, 2011

Get out of your shell and put words in my mouth!

Photo by Marian Crawford, www.mariancrawfordgallery.com
Congrats to Nicole Henke, winner of week 3's photo caption contest. See Nicole's winning entry attached to last week's picture (below).

This stressed out shell guy is the week 4 photo - it's a doozy! I can't wait to see the decom-stress captions you send in (send to deboracoty@gmail.com).

All the weekly winners will be entered in a drawing for a signed copy of Too Blessed to be Stressed and a week's supply of your fave Starbucks chill-out beverage.

You're invited to join me this week on Thurs, 8/25/11, at my Facebook Launch Party for Too Blessed to be Stressed. At 8 pm EDT (7 CDT, 6 MDT, 5 PDT), just click on this link 
"Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path" (Psalm 119:105)
and follow the simple directions there to join the fun. Bring along some friends and enjoy chic chat, trivia questions, swap funny stories, share some decom-stress tips, and win lots of great stuff like a Kindle, free books, chocolate and more!

It's like going to a pajama party but you don't even have to leave home!

And don't forget to check out my newest 2-Minute Stress Busters by going to www.deboracoty.com and clicking on "Stress Busters." 

I'd love to hear from you!


Monday, August 15, 2011

Are you a bird or a fish?

Photo by Marian Crawford, www.mariancrawfordgallery.com
Congrats to Sonja Gissy, winner of the Week 2 photo caption contest; see her winning caption beneath the photo below right.
 
At left is the new photo for week 3, an amazingly beautiful scene by nature photographer Marian Crawford. Takes my stress level down a notch just by gazing at it!

But before I remind you of the contest guidelines, I want to share an interesting observation about last week's photo and entries.

 Okay, stop reading for a moment and glance down at the heron and fish photo below. Now, with whom did you first identify - the bird or the fish? The conqueror or the conquered? The one whose needs were met or the one who apparently needs a miracle to survive?

It didn't occur to me until Spouse pointed out that almost exactly half of the caption entries were from the bird's point of view and half from the fish's.

Hmm. I wonder if our carefully camouflaged underlying perspective of life is inadvertently unearthed when we view a subjective scene such as this. Beneath all the political correctness and say-what-I-shouldness, do we really believe the glass is half empty or half the calories?

Could those half-and-half responses somehow mean we unintentionally impose our victorious versus fighting-a-losing-battle perspectives of our own lives onto that in which we come in contact? Or does it mean nothing at all? Is our identification with the bird or the fish totally random?
When fate has you by the neck, don't forget to look up!

I'd love to hear what do you think. Are you a bird or a fish? How is your life colored by your underlying perspective? And how did it get that way?

In the meantime, while you contemplate the meaning of life (or maybe simply that herons have to eat for heaven's sake!), I'll remind you to send in your captions for week 3 to me at deboracoty@gmail.com. Each week's winner will be entered in a drawing for some swell prizes (scroll down to last week's post to find out more).

Thank you SO much for entering - it's been a pure pleasure seeing your great ideas! 

(P.S. The 5 judges had a tough time choosing a winner but Sonja's entry finally eeked it out. Congrats!)






Monday, August 8, 2011

Let's Decom-press Photo Caption Contest - week 2

Photo by Marian Crawford www.MarianCrawfordgallery.com
Congrats to Sandi Dorey, winner of Week #1 photo caption contest. Sandi's winning caption has been added to last week's photo at the bottom left of this page. 

Here's this week's photo at the right - have fun!

Just send your entry loosely based on the theme Too Blessed to be Stressed (the title of my new book) to deboracoty@gmail.com and tune in right here next week, same blog time, same blog channel, to see if your entry wowed our five judges. (Relax - none of them is named Simon!) Enter as many time as you like!

Your caption can be funny, poignant, captivating, silly ... whatever helps you decom-stress.

The previous week's winner will be announced each Monday when a new picture is posted. It could be you!

All 9 winners will be entered into a drawing for an autographed copy of  Too Blessed to be Stressed, plus a week's supply of your favorite Starbucks chill-out beverage (mine is chai latte). PLUS, everyone who sends in a caption (whether you win or not) will be entered into a drawing for a great surprise gift package.

Speaking of great prizes ...

Don't stress over your tress!
Don't forget to register in my FREE KINDLE GIVE-AWAY sweepstakes; the winner will be announced at my FaceBook Launch Party for Too Blessed to be Stressed on August 25 at 8 pm Eastern. Simply click here to register: http://litfusegroup.com/blogtours/text/13418047


To learn more about Too Blessed to be Stressed or my other books, hop right on over to my website, www.DeboraCoty.com and be sure to sign up for my quarterly e-newsletter to keep abreast of all the great contests and give-aways. And while you're there, click on "Stress Busters" and check out my newest 2-Minute Stress Buster videos (we're adding new ones all the time!) and my hilarious blooper.

 

Celebrating the Release of My Latest book "Too Stressed to be Blessed"

To celebrate the release of her latest laugh-out-loud book, Too Blessed to Be Stressed, Debora Coty is hosting the Too Blessed to Be Stressed KINDLE Giveaway!

Too Blessed to be Stressed is a fun-filled read overflowing with insights and practical tips. Perfectly delicious for living happily ever after! 
-Rhonda Rhea, best-selling author of Whatsoever Things Are Lovely

Read what the reviewers are saying here.



Debora has created a “Too Blessed” prize package worth over $150! One grand prize winner will receive:

* A brand new Latest Generation KINDLE with Wi-Fi and Pearl Screen

* Too Blessed to Be Stressed by Debora Coty (for KINDLE)

To enter just click one of the icons below. Hurry! The giveaway ends August 25th. Winner will be announced on the evening of the 18th during Debora's De-Stress Facebook Party! Debora will be hosting a "life-preserver" chat (it’s okay if you haven’t read the book – who knows, you might WIN a copy!), testing trivia skills, swapping funny stories, handing out some decom-stress tips, and giving away tons of great stuff! (Chocolate, books, and more!) Hope to see you there. Bring your friends and join the fun on August 25th at 5:00 PM PST (6 PM MDT, 7 PM CDT, & 8 PM EDT).

Enter via E-mail Enter via FacebookEnter via Twitter

Also - be sure to check out Debora's series of Stress-Buster videos at her website: www.debcoty.com. She’s also hosting a photo caption contest on her blog for a chance to win a copy of Too Blessed to Be Stressed.

Sunday, July 31, 2011

Let's Decom-stress photo caption contest begins today!

Photo by nature photographer Marian Crawford,
www.MarianCrawfordgallery.com
Here it is! The first photo for our
Let's Decom-stress photo caption contest! 

I'll be posting a different awesome photo from nature photographer Marian Crawford each Monday throughout August and Sept. All you have to do is send in your one-line caption, loosely based on the theme, "Too Blessed to be Stressed," the title of my new book.

(To learn more about my books, check out my FaceBook author page or hop on over to my website, www.DeboraCoty.com ).

Your caption can be funny, poignant, silly .. whatever helps you decom-stress. Just send your entries to DeboraCoty@gmail.com (those who have already submitted entries to this blog, please resubmit to DeboraCoty@gmail.com - thanks!).

The previous week's winner will be announced each Monday when a new picture is posted. It could be you!

All 9 winners will be entered into a drawing for an autographed copy of  Too Blessed to be Stressed, plus a week's supply of your favorite Starbucks chill-out beverage (mine is chai latte).

So dear friends, without further ado, slap on your thinking caps and send in your ideas! You can enter as many times as you like.

Wednesday, July 27, 2011

Celebrating Wannabes

Shortly after I watched a dolphin arc through the air above the blue, blue waters off the shore of Daytona around 7:00 this morning, my attention was captured by the simple elegance and innate majesty of a V of nine brown pelicans. They didn't even know the alphabet, yet they adjusted their ranks to maintain that perfect letter from one end of the skyline to the other.

Wow. Warm and fuzzy inspiration from Papa God's magnificent creation spread from my broken right big toenail to my humidity-frizzied hair tips.

Then came the wannabe platoon. Just behind that gloriously regimented squadron flew five additional pelicans who were trying their durndest to emulate their role models. Four actually did pretty well, forming a perfectly straight line, tipping a wing here, snagging an up-current there to tweak their position and maintain a nice tight line.

Enter Herbie. I couldn't help but remember that poor little discombobulated elf from the animated TV Christmas show, "Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer." You know, the one who never quite fit in at Santa's workshop and ran away to find himself. 

Well, try as he might, this avian Herbie could not toe the line. He just didn't fly like his biddy buddies. Maybe they were relatives or eggmates and their mothers made them, but the other birds in the group actually spread apart to make room for him in the middle of their rank and file. Sadly, Herbie dipped and weaved and flapped when he should have glided and nearly body-slammed the bird beside him.

It made me laugh. But I doubt Herbie thought it was funny.

When the others finally gave up on him and closed the gap to box him out, Herbie still didn't give up. Despite their obvious snub, he tagged himself onto the end of the line, bobbing and fluttering like a spastic dot at the bottom of an exclamation mark. 

Then they landed gracefully in the water to enjoy some fishy breakfast and Herbie plopped down about six feet away, still trying to be part of the group, though it was quite evident he was an outcast.

Boy could I identify with Herbie. Can't you? I think we all feel like we don't belong at some point in our lives. That we're different. That we're misfits. Maybe we're not overtly rejected by our peers, but we know deep down that we're the disgruntled dentist wannabe among happy elves.

I feel like that in my writing life sometimes. Like I'm the wobbling dot beneath the exclamation mark of successful authors and speakers with whom I'm trying to fit in. It may look like I belong, but deep down I know better. I'm just a wannabe.

But you know what? I don't think that's really such a bad thing. Being a Herbie keeps us striving to improve ourselves, to never stay complacent. To reject rejection. To keep practicing our dipping and weaving so that we can fly in formation when we want to, and not be ashamed to be the maverick when we don't. 

 So here's to all the Herbies of the world! Are you one of us?
 







   

Thursday, July 21, 2011

How do you get here from there?

With the August 1 release date of my new nonfiction, faith-based self-help book Too Blessed to be Stressed peeking around the corner, I've found myself contemplating how on God's green earth I got here. Not here as in this city, state or country. Here as in this chocolate-stained computer chair.

Ten years ago I was immersed in my tidy little life as a health care professional, mother, wife and tennis addict. I hadn't written anything deeper than Christmas letters for over 20 years.

And then one day in 2002, in a dentist's office of all places, I heard that still, small voice whisper into my heart's ear, "It's time, Deb."

"Um, what time would that be, Lord?"

"Time to follow your childhood dream of writing for my glory."

So the adventure began. And I've never looked back. Not through enough rejection slips to sculpt a life-sized paper mache rhinoceros in my living room. Not through waiting, waiting, and more waiting in publication purgatory. Not through $1.57 royalty checks (I ain't funnin' ya). Not during endless phone calls begging for speaking gigs. Not even through the fall of the book industry empire.

A seriously scary time, that.

I'll admit the journey to publication wasn't easy. I started out as a cyber-ninnyhead. I knew nothing about websites, widgets and WordServe. But I learned. Slowly and sometimes painfully. Now I not only have a humdinger website, I also write two blogs (check out my other writer's blog), tweet (does that make me a twit?) and even have FaceBook launch parties planned for my next two books

Who'd a thunk a chick from the sticks would co-found an annual writer's retreat or lead workshops at writer's conferences? Or receive endorsements from literary heroes like Martha Bolton and Patsy Clairmont? (Hey, take it from me, you've gotta get over your paralyzing fear and ask; the big cheeses had to start out as utter butter just like us, and many are gracious enough to offer newbies a helping hand ... if you only ask.)

Well, all of this is impossible, of course. That's why Ephesians 3:20 assures us that Papa God is "able to do exceeding abundantly beyond all that we ask or think, according to the power that works within us."  His specialty is the impossible.

Looking back, I was blessed to be naive enough not to realize how many writerly accomplishments were considered impossible. So they weren't. But I did learn a lot along the way.
 
I learned the hard way that I can't do it all myself. That a good agent is better than a double mocha latte on a frigid night. That contracts are always negotiable. And money is not as important as readers.

But best of all, I've found that the most blessed, most magnificent, most incredible moment in a writer's life is when someone you don't even know shares how your words touched their heart. Maybe even changed their life.

It's then that you break down in complete humility, awestruck that Papa God used you as His instrument. The pen in His hand.

That's what it's all about, isn't it?

So here I sit, smearing more Godiva into my computer chair, thanking Him for the fantastic opportunity to sweat, fret, learn, and never stop growing as a writer. Care to join me?

Wednesday, July 6, 2011

Spielberg I Ain't.

Cut! The annoyed directer shouts. Again.

Okay, this is getting old. Like rancid fish.

Spouse and I are trying our hand at shooting a series of twelve short videos called, "2-Minute Stress Busters," to coincide with the August release of my new book, Too Blessed to Be Stressed. 

But we're finding out we're definitely not. Too blessed to be stressed, I mean.

Today's film topic is, "Friends are our best de-stessors." Ironically prophetic.

We've chosen 10 o'clock in the morning to begin shooting, assuming that most folks will be already gone to work and we'll have lots of peace and quiet in which to work. Spouse is behind the camera on a tripod in our driveway, director, cameraman and dolly grip (I don't know what that means but I always see it movie credits and love the way it sounds. Who wouldn't want to be a dolly grip?) Our makeshift "set" is perched at the top of a usually quiet, gently rolling cul-de-sac of five homes nestled beneath a canopy of oak trees. Birds are chirping, bees are buzzing, cicadas are humming. What could go wrong, right?

The first of three brief scenes has my girlfriend, Pam, and I rounding the corner together in a jovial power walk which proceeds across the length of the cul-de-sac and ends at the base of our driveway. We assume our starting positions down the street and Spouse the director gives us the hand signal. The camera is rolling.

Only neighbor #1 chooses this precise moment to drag his trashcans to the curb. Cut!

Take two. As we pass by his house, Neighbor #2 backs his tactical military training vehicle (looks like Rambo in a Hummer) out of his driveway and revs the engine. Cut!

Take three. We make it to the driveway this time and I totter up the slope to my mark in front of the camera and open my mouth to speak. Suddenly backyard Neighbor #3 cranks up his lawn mower.Cut!

We retreat inside the house to kill time until Mr. Green Thumb mows his way around to his front yard. The background noise fades to the level of a jet exhaust. The clock ticks. We can't wait any longer. I'll just have to speak above the din.

We've just resumed filming when Neighbor #4 to our left flings open her front door and lets her yippy dog out. Spouse makes the "keep going" hand motion behind the camera so I distractedly keep fumbling my way through the script until little Fido decides to come on over to our yard and lift his leg on the spider plant just behind me. Cut!           

Fido's owner, who has never been a hint-taker, wanders over in her jammies to see what we're doing. She won't leave. I'm ready to lose it. Spouse catches my eye. He senses the volcano about to erupt and gives me the look. You know that look. The one that all married people recognize. The one that silently says, "I know what you're about to do; don't do it."

I know he's right and it makes me madder. Here we are filming a chapter I wrote about loving your neighbor and I'm about to blast mine for no reason except she's lonely and wants to chat at an inopportune time. Okay, doctor Debbie, take your own medicine. I force a smile, wipe the sweat off my forehead, and try to ignore Fido digging up my impatiens.


More poetic irony. He's also uprooting my impatience. But maybe that's the point. Maybe Papa God is trying to show me something here.

What good is knowing something, even writing about it, or worse yet, filming it, if we don't live it?

I suspect that's what He's talking about in my meditation verse from yesterday, "Whatever you do in word or deed, do all in the name of the Lord." (Col. 3:17).

Humph. I could've meditated on that verse until next spring and never quite gotten the message like this. Whatever I do - even the unexpected like dealing with irritating neighbors, things that don't go the way I think they should, blown schedules, and peeing Fidos - should be in the name of the Lord. Not just the easy stuff, the hard stuff. Especially the hard stuff.

After only a half-dozen more interruptions we finally finish shooting and the director calls a wrap. So when you see Stress Buster Number 7 (Nurturing Friendships) when it airs in August,* you'll hear the lawn mower, notice the trashcans, and be the only one who knows the behind-the-scenes story.

And know positively that our blessings can outweigh our stressings.

*Keep abreast of each new 2-Minute Stress Buster on my website (www.DeboraCoty.com; click on "Stress Busters") as they're posted bi-weekly from July - September. Or for the easy route, just following this blog or like/befriend me on Twitter or FaceBook (you can find links for these on my website also).

Monday, June 27, 2011

Genesis vs Nemesis

Ever find yourself searching the skies for an IM from heaven? Maybe a brief personal note from the Master of the Universe scribbled in the orange corner of the sunset sky? 

I've been thinking a lot lately about discerning God's will.

Like ... how do we do it? How do we know which decision is the right one when there are so many that assault us daily? How can we be sure we're on the path He prepared for us, especially when we encounter roadblocks and potholes? Are they there to detour us or for us to climb over?

In my recent study of Genesis, I noticed that Abraham faced some of the same challenges I do in trying to discern and follow God's will. But he seemed to have a better handle on it than I do.

The first amazing thing is that when God said go, Abe went (Gen 12:1). He picked up his family, tents and belongings that had been his home for his entire life and without argument or what we would call human reasoning, just up and took off. Where, he didn't even know at first. He just marched on in the direction that God's supernatural finger pointed until He said "Stop!" (Gen 15:7)

Once he finally arrived where he didn't know he was headed, God gave an entire country (Canaan) to Abraham at age 75 (Abe's age, not God's), but he still had to work for it. It didn't come gift wrapped with a big red bow. It wasn't a huge empty plot of beautiful, endless pastureland and bubbling streams just waiting on him to move in. There were people living there - big people with big swords and big egos who didn't want to leave.

Abraham not only had to conquer all his enemies, but he had to plant crops and dig well to sustain his flocks. Work, work and more work. 

And there were problems. Major problems.

Shortly after he arrived in this promised land, a famine struck, forcing Abe to leave his barely-broken-in-homestead and flee to the country next door (Egypt) just to be able to keep his family alive. Then after he got kicked out of Egypt, he became a nomad in the desert until finally, many years later, he was able to return to once again stake his claim in the land that God gave him.

I don't know about you, but if I was Abe, after all that trouble, I might have wondered if I'd misheard the Almighty. If God had really given me this property, why in the world was I having such difficulty living on it? Shouldn't following God's will be easier?

And there's the rub, isn't it. Shouldn't following God's will be easier?

I don't think Mother Teresa would have answered yes. Or Martin Luther King. Or Corrie Ten Boom, or a thousand other godly men and women pushing their own personal boulders out of the road God set before them. The obstacles were not their nemesis. They were there by design.

God doesn't promise us red bows and smooth sailing in following His will. I wish He did. But His word makes it pretty clear that it's actually the opposite.

Abraham hung in there despite all the thousands of time he must have wanted to turn his donkeys around and head back to the comfort of his roots. And so must I. Even when I can't see the next turn in the road because of the thick fog. Or even when the pavement disappears into a sink hole.

Because that's what this faith journey is all about.